Have you ever started eating a packet of crisps and then suddenly noticed that they’re all gone? Or arrived in your bedroom and can’t remember why you’re there? Have you driven home from work, got out of the car and wondered, how on earth you got there? Or asked your partner the same question three times because you can’t remember how they responded?
Mindless To Mindful
As a mother, juggling and often times, struggling to stay on top of it all, I battle with feelings of despair, loss of control, exhaustion and overwhelm. And as a coping mechanism, at times, I tend to just tune out or explode in a messy combination of tears and snot.
These have all happened to me (especially the crisps…I love crisps)…more times than I care to admit. Mindlessly tuning out, disengagement and disconnecting from the pressures, worries and stress that is life.
I’ll be bluntly honest. I love my kids and my husband. But there are days when they drive me insane and mindlessly tuning them out is the easy option:
- The constant demands for attention – helping with homework, wiping bums, finding random missing objects from the generation dolls knickers to my husband’s wallet
- Relentless whining and bickering over the smallest, ridiculous things – such as who got out of the bath first the last night or whose turn it is to have the red plate
- The endless pressure of feeding my family – what’s for dinner, what’s for lunch, what’s for breakfast…”I’m hungry” is literally the soundtrack that plays on repeat 24/7 in my house
- A never-ending pile of laundry – we are five in my family but I swear I’m doing my neighbour’s laundry too
- The toys, the noise, the mess, the crumbs on the counter, the shoes left lying around….you get the picture
Is it any wonder I swing from mindlessly making my way through the day to raging, resentful women?
There is a solution, a healthy, happy middle ground. Go from mindless to mindful with mindfulness.
What is Mindfulness?
Being mindful is actively paying attention and being purposely aware of your surrounding and the people in your life. It allows you to become more aware of where you are and what you doing at any given moment by creating space for yourself – space to breathe, space to think and space to develop appropriate reactions.
If you’re like me, the priority of every day is “to get shit done”. I have lists, lots and lots of lists. I’m continually rushed from one task to the next. And I’m basing my productivity on how many items I clear from my list on a given day. I’m in a perpetual state of hurry. It’s exhausting.
I decided recently to make a change. I’m late enough getting to the mindfulness party but I’m learning it’s a party that offers so much more than your standard chicken nuggets and chips.
Why Mindfulness Is Important For Busy Women?
Firstly, your measure of productively or self-worth should never be determined by a strike through on your to do list but by whether you have been present in your encounters and enjoyed, truly experienced the moment.
Secondly, to go from mindless to mindful, you must stop worrying about the next thing that needs attention and commit to the present. Stress and anxiety will continuously be present in your life if you always focus on what’s next. Spreading yourself too thinly will lead to unhappiness, low self-worth because you feel you can’t stay on top of everything and even cause health issues.
And lastly, doing too much and not being mindful can also lead you to miss things such a crucial detail at work causing a mistake or time with your kids because you’re too busy sorting laundry.
How can we, as busy women, really enjoy and fully experience the current moment when we’re juggling so many other things? How do we permanently bin the stress, anxiety and the feeling of constantly chasing our own tails?
Stay tuned – next week's blog post gets into the detail of mindfulness practice.
Co-Founder, Pepper Hustle
P.S. If you're keen to go from mindless to mindful and want to get started immediately, I urge you to take a look at the Pepper Hustle's The Power now. Mindless to mindful, stressed to peaceful in 12 short weeks.