Today is my 40th birthday. And I am ready to rock my 40s.
Rumour has it - getting old sucks. But I have to say, in my very humble opinion, screw that.
Yes - my tummy and boobs may be a little saggier – thank you, children. And I get more excited by the life-changing ability of my Dyson than the thought of staying out past midnight.
But there’s a certain “something” that comes with age – let’s call it a healthy mixture of confidence, maturity and knowledge – that my twenty-year-old self certainly didn’t have and my thirty-year-old self could only aspire to.
I vividly remember my mum turning forty. She’d just had my baby sister Nicola and I recall thinking “man she’s so old”. I owe my mum a big apology – 40 is far from old…
Ready To Rock My 40s
Here’s why I’m choosing to rock my 40s and positively build on my life experience so far:
- Firstly, I can’t stop the ageing process so why complain or bemoan a number. And that is all age is - a number. It does not define you as a person or
stopyou from doing what you want to do.
- Secondly, I realize more and more that life is not about the big accomplishments. I gain and grow more as a person from the small, valuable lessons nestled into the quiet, ordinary, everyday parts of my life.
- I’ve learned to embrace my whole imperfect self – I am comfortable and happy being unapologetically me.
- In my thirties, I was consumed with the idea of perfection in all areas of my life. But here’s the thing about perfection - it’s like the mirage in the desert…it doesn’t exist. It doesn’t exist because life is a messy business. No matter how we try to bandage it up, how much makeup we pile on or how many possession we own…we all have SHIT going on in our lives. End of…yes, I’m talking to you fake Instagram world.
- I don’t worry so much anymore what people think of me. And this has taken me a whole 40 years to achieve. A good friend said to me earlier this year – “what other people think of you is none of your business”. I had to really
mullthis one over but essentially when you obsess about what others think of you, you give your power away. Wondering, worrying or being concerned about what you assume others think of you is a waste of time and causes stress and anxiety for no reason. And I, for one, am done with that.
- As you get older, you acknowledge the speed with which life flies by. We all only have a finite amount of time each day so I’ve become quite selfish in how and who I spend my time with. It breaks down to this one simple question – does this activity/person spark joy and love? Ditch the things, the responsibilities, the people, the actions that drag you down. Always choose joy and love.
- I realise, probably on a daily basis, how much I don’t know and I’m OK with that. When I was younger, admitting I didn’t know felt kinda like failure. But the only way to acquire knowledge and to continue to grow as a person is to open myself up to learning. And to also accepting that I’m not always right.
- Self-care is not a once in a blue moon activity…and it’s definitely not an afternoon at the spa. It is a necessity which I practise every, single week. It’s non-negotiable in my house.
- I’ve lowered my expectations. Expectations of others and of situations lead to disappointment. I can only control myself so I now trust that events, people and situations will unfold as they are meant to happen rather than dwell on my unmet and, often times, unfair or unrealistic expectations.
- Most of all, I’m trying not to sweat the small stuff. Negative stuff happens all day every day – I can’t change that but I can work on how I respond to the small stuff.
So forties…here I come…
I’m embracing my age and ready to rock my 40s. Sure I’ve got the odd grey hair and I have to scroll a bit further to find my birth year but I feel stronger, both physically and mentally than I have done in years. I’ve learnt so much and have so much to be grateful for. I’m ready for this next adventure and look forward to positively living, learning and loving.
Co-Founder, Pepper Hustle
P.S. Anyone else in their 40s? Comment below - are you loving your 40s or are you struggling?